When my girls were younger and I would pick them up after church each weekend, my usual question of “How was church?” was met with an unenthusiastic “Fine.” Or if I changed the question up and asked, “Did you have fun?” the usual answer was “Yes.” Or if I would ask them the expectant “What did you learn today?” I would be answered with an indifferent, “I don’t know.”
I knew our children’s church was fun. I trusted that the teachers spent lots of time preparing a great lesson. Why wouldn’t my girls tell me about it? I didn’t realize the problem was with my questions themselves. These questions were terrible starters to get my girls talking about their experience at church.
So, to help out all the parents who ask these questions to their children as they leave church, like I did, I’ve started a list of questions my girls answered with more than a single word. Try them. Your kid’s may even talk to you about church all the way home!
Questions a child will answer at the end of their time at church:
1. What did you eat for snack?
2. How did you help someone today?
3. What games did you play?
4. What was the funniest thing that happened today?
5. Did anyone do anything super nice for you?
6. Who made you smile today?
7. What new fact about the Bible did you learn today?
8. What challenged you today? (This is a great question for older kids)
9. Who was the Bible Lesson about?
10. If one of your classmates could be the teacher for the day who would you want it to be? Why?
11. If you had the chance to be the teacher next weekend, what would you teach the class?
12. Who do you want to make friends with but haven’t yet? Why not?
13. What is your teacher’s most important rule?
14. Does your teacher remind you of anyone else you know? How?
15. Tell me something you learned about a friend today.
16. Did you catch anyone picking their nose?
17. What rule was the hardest to follow?
18. Which person in your class is the exact opposite of you?
19. Which time during church is the most fun?
And the most important question…
20. What was your Main Point for today?
The last question is by far my favorite, because if your church uses a curriculum, like Elevate, that includes an application statement, or Main Point, then you can be sure your child learned something to put into practice during the week.
In FC Kids we do this so parents can connect with their kids. And it’s not just through the Main Point! There’s a poster by each classroom door in the preschool that gives parents a question to ask their children every week, and we post the Main Point on our FC Kids Facebook page with links to the corresponding lesson on the free website LeadershipForKids.com.
What questions have you used to engage your children in their church experience and to help them apply the Bible Lesson all week long?